Lies, You Know That Feeling

“Never ask a question if you don’t already know the answer. I know some believe you ask questions to find out answers but my view is you already have the answer you want to hear. And if you’re not going to get that, then you’re better off leaving the question well enough alone.”

A Season to Remember – Sheila O’Flanagan

Facts I Learned From Movies

– In the movies, if a woman hears a noise she will go and check it out in her underwear.

– In the movies, the ventilation system of any building is the perfect hiding place because no one ever thinks of looking there AND you can get to any other part of the building undetected.

– In the movies, the Chief of Police will almost always suspend his star detective OR give him 48 hours to finish the job.

– In the movies, a man will show no pain while taking the most ferocious beating but will wince when a woman tries to clean his wounds.

– In the movies, the Eiffel Tower can be seen from any window in Paris.

– In the movies, all police detectives will find it necessary to visit a strip club at least once during their investigation.

– In the movies, if you are chased through a town you can usually take cover in a passing parade any time of the year.

– In the movies, a guy is very likely to survive any battle in any war unless he makes the mistake of showing someone a picture of his sweetheart back home.

– In the movies, all grocery bags contain at least one stick of French bread.

– In the movies, all bombs are fitted with electronic timing devices with large readouts so you know exactly when they are going to go off.

– In the movies, police departments deliberately assign their officers  a partner who is their polar opposite.

Winds of Change

People change.

Surprised by this statement? Probably not. After all, we all know that we change as we grow older. While we have a certain core that defines us by the time we hit adulthood, we are still constantly learning, growing and evolving in adulthood. Life experiences such as career, children, travel, etc. affect and shape us in some form or another.  In other words, we don’t stop growing mentally and emotionally….and most of us our okay with that fact.

So, why is it so hard sometimes to accept that our spouse will change too as they grow older? We spent so much time getting to know our spouse and agreeing to marry them for who they were then, that having them morph into a completely different person can be bewildering.

One of the hardest things I have had to grasp is that while I married my husband for the man he was on our wedding day, he is turning – has turned – into a different man. Not in a bad way … just in unexpected ways. I still love him dearly and nothing will ever change that.

The point is, you never really know for sure what is going to happen in the future. I don’t know what the future has in store – I don’t know how I will change down the road. I do know that change in marriage is inevitable