Love vs Respect

Which is most needed Love or Respect? If you have two choices only; would you live with someone who loves you but doesn’t respect you enough or someone who respects you but doesn’t love you enough?

 Dr. Emerson Eggerichs says: “We believe love best motivates a woman and respect most powerfully motivates a man. Research reveals that during marital conflict a husband most often reacts when feeling disrespected and a wife reacts when feeling unloved.  We asked 7,000 people this question: when you are in a conflict with your spouse or significant other, do you feel unloved or disrespected?  83% of the men said “disrespected.”  72% of the women said, “unloved.”  Though we all need love and respect equally, the felt need differs during conflict, and this difference is as different as pink is from blue!”

Personally if I can’t have both equally, then I would choose love over respect, as love can’t stand for feeling disrespected (and that is a relative word from one person to another). If I don’t feel love, I certainly can’t have/show respect.

Happy Birthday Mr. Dressup

Ernie Coombs (a.k.a. Mr. Dressup) was a staple of CBC’s morning schedule for an incredible 32 years. Along with TV pals Casey and Finnegan, the kindly Mr. Dressup entertained generations of Canadian children with simple crafts, sing-alongs and trips to the “tickle trunk” for costumes.

Upon receiving yet another prestigious award, Mr. Coombs passed on a few words of advice: “Keep an open mind, and an open heart. Don’t take life too seriously — it doesn’t last forever, you know. And may I remind you for the last time — keep your crayons sharp, your sticky tape untangled, and always put the top back on your markers!”

Ernie Coombs, known to Canada as Mr. Dressup would have celebrated his 85th birthday today were he still alive. I watched this show every day as a pre-school child.